If it wasn’t for the internet, I would have always thought of him as the guy who made me cry by scoring a mark more than me and securing first position in 7th grade.
If it wasn’t for Orkut, I would have never known him personally, never ever have interacted with him in any way.
If it wasn’t for mobile phones, emails, text messages, and video chats, I would have never fallen in love.
Modern technology has played quite essentially the most important part in shaping up the story of my love. Although we knew each other since the time we were 10, we never really liked each other. I always prayed for him to leave school and my prayers were answered after 7th grade, as he left the city to study in a different state. He was out of my mind and my life until the day when we met in Orkut, the then famous social networking site. The scraps in Orkut soon turned into mails and the mails into phone calls. I was going through a rough phase during those times and the only time I was happy was when I talked to him. After a series of never ending phone calls and numerous texts, we turned from just being friends to best friends. The words we spoke and the words we wrote laid the foundation of a beautiful relationship. We were undoubtedly in love but with a distance of almost 1400 miles between us and with the uncertain future of an inter-caste relationship, it was difficult for us to acknowledge our feelings. We did give in eventually, as it became impossible to hide our feelings from our own soul. There wasn’t a particular date, when we confessed our feelings to each other. I still don’t know the exact time, when our conversations through mails started changing from those of friends to lovers.
The real problem though, was not of falling in love, it was easy, but of keeping that love alive, especially when we had the disadvantage of not being together physically. In these 3 years since we have been together, there were times when I longed to see his face, or wished for nothing but a hug, but all that I could get was a text or a call. There are numerous things I don’t know about him yet. I know the smiley he would send me if he is angry but I still don’t how he looks when he’s angry. On those rare occasions when we meet, the initial few hours are spent in accepting the fact that this is the same person we talk to for countless hours through phone. By the time we get comfortable with each other, the time to part ways sets in. But those few hours we’ve spent together till today have been inscribed as the most beautiful memories in our minds. If we can make so many memories living at a distance, how wonderful it would be to finally spend the rest of our lives together. This thoughts keeps us going, makes us work hard to make it work. The pain, the separation is worth the happiness.
We’ve shared our dreams and hopes for the future, we’ve shared our embarrassing secrets, the desire to do senseless things, the disappointments and fears we have. We’ve fought over silly things, hurt each other only to forgive and learn from those fights. We’ve always found a way to shorten the distance between us. Our love hasn’t faded because of the complications we’ve faced in life because at the end of the day we trust each other. And trust is what matters the most, be it an online or an offline relationship. If you’ve the belief that you will find true love someday and will strive to make it work, then you surely will, no matter what. You may face many glitches on the way, but one or the other medium would help you to overcome those glitches.
In these three years we’ve created a world of our own. We may not be perfect for each other, but every step we take in our lives; it is to get closer to that perfection. We may have sacrificed few things on the way, but it doesn’t matter much. Love after all is worth giving up everything for, yet feel good about it. It has always been this way, be it the 18th century or the 21st and I believe that it’ll always remain the same.
Written for the Weekly Writing Challenge.
Amen…
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Hey Mona! How have you been?
I wish everything gets well real soon there. Hope you are good.
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Hey Tapish..Its been a long time. I am fine. How have you been? Just read your post, I hope you find your words soon. It happens with all of us. Just keep trying. I don’t think before I write. I feel we just waste our time thinking what will people think about us, or our decisions. People talk no matter what so the best way to live your life is to just ignore them.
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I have been lil busy lately. Busy in things I don’t know about 😀
Yeah.. I understand, we are on our own in this world!! Distractions always come along with things.
You live in Pittoragarh, right? Heard about it in news too. How’s everything there now?
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Same here…I didn’t write for almost a month but now I am back… once you get into the flow, things get going… 🙂
Its my hometown, I don’t live there anymore…and things have been fine here at the place I stay now. Just too much rain…pithoragarh has been affected, and many other places nearby..but I am safe.
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yup.. truly said!!
oh okay.. glad you’re good 🙂
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Hello Pseudomonaz congratulations and yes, may god bless! 🙂
If possible would love to get your feedback on my scribble Resilience, thanks
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Thanks for the comment.
I would surely take a look on all your posts. I have been busy lately, Would read it as soon as I am free.
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Okay 🙂
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Love is such a beautiful thing! Best wishes!
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Love is wonderful indeed. Thanks for the wishes. 🙂
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Love is an oxymoron and not many things are in our favor..kal kya hoga kisko pata..enjoy the moments of being in love…..
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that’s what i mean to say, kal ki kal pe chodo, aaj se nata jodo… 😉
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loved to read and to see you happy with the things going in life.
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Thanks Soumya…one year has really changed my prospective towards life, trying to be more optimistic about it.
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Beautiful post! 🙂 I totally know what you mean when you said that sometimes all you need is a hug but all you get is a text! I go through that as well sometimes …
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You know right, it feels horrible..sometimes i wish i could go inside the phone and just give him a hug, I wish they develop a technology like that, for people like us.
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i’ve been there too… 🙂
A very beautiful post.. Loved this especially.. “I know the smiley, he would senfd me if he is angry, but i still don’t know how he looks when he is angry”. Perfectly described long-distance love…
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Happens with all of us… We all know the feeling. 😦
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Hey!
I accidentally came across this post today while at office!
I know not what, but something has given me a moment of life for sure!
Loved this! 🙂
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I am glad I could make you smile. Thanks for liking it. 🙂
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Beautifully written! Love really is about giving things up sometimes, no matter where we find ourselves in time.
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I agree… Sometimes we have to sacrifice few things in love but it’s all worth it. 🙂
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How beautiful! 3 years and long distance, go you!! I hope your having a great weekend. Hugs Paula xxx
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thanks…have a great weekend ahead. 🙂
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Wow that was a beautiful post. It can’t have always been an easy three years for you both. I hope everything works out beautifully for you.
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Thank you. 🙂
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“On those rare occasions when we meet, the initial few hours are spent in accepting the fact that this is the same person we talk to for countless hours through phone. By the time we get comfortable with each other, the time to part ways sets in. But those few hours we’ve spent together till today have been inscribed as the most beautiful memories in our minds”
I so understand what you feel, because I’m in a similar situation myself . I’m in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend lives 950 km from me. Still, sometimes it is as if he were living right next to me every day, maybe closer to me than people with whom I interact on a daily basis. I think that with work, it doesn’t matter where two people are, how far from each other, the relationship will make it through time. It takes communication and trust and just a tiny tiny bit of faith and you have it all.
I enjoyed your post a lot. I wish you and your boyfriend all the best! 😀
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As long as love is true, distance fails to create differences. Yes, we may miss certain moments, but the time we meet, its all worth it.
Thank you and best wishes to you too. 🙂
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Very personal and honest post.
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Wish I could describe it in a better way, but, absolutely amazing mona. 😀 So beautifully written. Loved it 🙂
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wide mix of topics and very interesting writings .my good wishes to you.
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Thank you.. 🙂
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This was great! I’m happy for you. Also, don’t worry about the inter-caste thing. It’s so rare to find someone that can truly understand you. You don’t want to lose that someone based on what the goddamn society will say. They aren’t part of your relationship, you and him are.
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I hope we’ll be able to fight this society for our love. I hope we’ll be able to shorten this distance between us. *fingers crossed* 🙂
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